Be With One Another; Pebble My Headstone
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being/doing
He liked fish and chips. She took me to the woods. We looked at the whole life of this thing including the suffering and named the highlights, trying not to idealize. Frankly, though, the world of bereavement is a world of intuition, symbolism, and ritual.
We were living the stages with depth.
In this place to gently cope we were mutuality embodied, seriously, for realz. "I love and respect you immensely, always," "Thank you for being my friend." It was all right to be vulnerable. We could cry together. The mutuality was us forcing to admit that neither of us had any control over the reality that something we love has died.
What i really mean to say is.
hy·poc·o·rism
–noun
1. a pet name.
2. the practice of using a pet name.
3. the use of forms of speech imitative of baby talk, esp. by an adult.
Complicated grief responses almost always are a function of intensity and timing. There is a clinical problem of becoming "identified" with the grief. In this situation, mourners are reluctant to release the grief because grieving has been integrated as part of their identity. Reporting in the journal NeuroImage (May 10, 2008), scientists suggest that complicated grief activates neurons in the reward centers of the brain, possibly giving these memories addiction-like properties. The authors found activity in the nucleus accumbens, a region of the brain most commonly associated with reward. It is one that has also been shown to play a role in social attachment, such as sibling and maternal affiliation.
being/doing
He liked fish and chips. She took me to the woods. We looked at the whole life of this thing including the suffering and named the highlights, trying not to idealize. Frankly, though, the world of bereavement is a world of intuition, symbolism, and ritual.
We were living the stages with depth.
In this place to gently cope we were mutuality embodied, seriously, for realz. "I love and respect you immensely, always," "Thank you for being my friend." It was all right to be vulnerable. We could cry together. The mutuality was us forcing to admit that neither of us had any control over the reality that something we love has died.
What i really mean to say is.
hy·poc·o·rism
–noun
1. a pet name.
2. the practice of using a pet name.
3. the use of forms of speech imitative of baby talk, esp. by an adult.
Complicated grief responses almost always are a function of intensity and timing. There is a clinical problem of becoming "identified" with the grief. In this situation, mourners are reluctant to release the grief because grieving has been integrated as part of their identity. Reporting in the journal NeuroImage (May 10, 2008), scientists suggest that complicated grief activates neurons in the reward centers of the brain, possibly giving these memories addiction-like properties. The authors found activity in the nucleus accumbens, a region of the brain most commonly associated with reward. It is one that has also been shown to play a role in social attachment, such as sibling and maternal affiliation.